Updated: Nov 19
In 2009 I decided to move across the United States - east coast to west coast - with no real plan and less than $1000 in my bank account. I sold everything I could to make money when I needed; I even sold my car. In half a year I moved back. I felt I failed. I made a lot of excuses and even excuses as to why I moved back home. I became depressed. One person even said to my face “Couldn’t cut it in California, huh?!”.
All these years later, I look back at that experience so fondly and I also own up to it. I am glad I did it and so glad I moved back to my hometown then because of where I am today and the things I have learned.
Where I am now? I moved again - exactly 10 years later. … and YES, there was and still is a lot of fear.
I moved in late 2019 from Scranton, PA to Asheville, North Carolina with my husband. I wondered often if I made the right choice. I still wonder but each day more and more I fall even more in love with who I am becoming.
There are no mistakes.
Taking a chance will never be a mistake. If you leave and don’t find what you’re looking for - that is OK. If you fall down and have to pick up the pieces and return back that is OK too. If you come home empty-handed, you tried and that’s what matters.
Don’t let fear keep you from trying new things because there are no mistakes in life, only lessons.
The resilience and strength within you is far more than you ever imagined!
There is so much power and strength within us. We do not know our fullest extent until we try. When we step away and out of our comfort zones we discover that we can, and we are capable of standing firmly on our own two feet.
Regardless of whether you’re contemplating a move, starting a new venture or job, or trying to understand yourself more, know that you are a resilient force! You are STRONG.
Give your life a chance to truly happen and let go.
You won’t know how the future will turn out. That is life. There is no road map or manual. You will simply move forward because that’s what you feel is right and when you let go of the control, the seeking of perfection, your life truly begins.
When I left the place I called home for the majority of my life, something within shifted. Unlike when I moved in 2009 or spent a summer subletting a NYC apartment, this recent move felt different. I realized that the definition of ‘home’ can be temporary. ‘Home’ can also be multiple places and according to a quote I once heard “Home is where your Mom is.”.
Right now home for me is Asheville. My husband and I celebrated our one year of signing our lease in Asheville on November 13th. When we signed that lease I remembered feeling so scared; I thought of a list of what we could do should we have to move back to Scranton. I had such anxiety over something new. Looking back now, I can not believe it has been a year - and an odd year at that with lockdowns and anxieties due to the coronavirus. Still, I am so glad I took that leap of faith in myself.
It doesn't have to be a move to another town - trying anything new is scary. Even the littlest of changes may feel like a giant scary spinning leap. Whatever it is that you are feeling drawn to do - DO IT!